WAKANDA FOREVER is an overall celebration of eternal love, life, and legacy. It is a tribute to one’s life and the bequest left behind. This movie is not just a movie but a spiritual awakening and enlightenment of how art imitates life. The beatiful sequel serves as a reminder that in life you must learn how to adapt and adjust to the uncertainties, tragedies, and travesties. WAKANDA FOREVER sheds light on what it means to be passionate and purposeful- even after a catastrophic loss.
Due to the untimely passing of their King T’Challa played by the late and great actor Chadwick Boseman, a nation is forced to somehow pick up the pieces and rewrite their story. A story so monumental yet full of wailing and lamentation. As the audience alongside the actors, we get to experience the grief of the loss of both Boseman the actor and Tchalla, THE BLACK PANTHER.
The death of a Beloved Man, Actor Son, Brother, Protector, and Monarch all tug at the heartstrings of the characters, cast, and moviegoers simultaneously. This is something that needed to be felt by the world to show us that death is not the end. Life will continue to go on in the midst of grief and the unknown.
If you haven’t gotten a chance to see this film, I must warn you that tears will be shed so please be sure to bring you a box of Kleenex to the theatre. WAKANDA FOREVER orbits around the endless tidal waves of grief and a hope deferred. After watching, I gleaned 5 lessons about grief. These lessons will help you with whatever loss you may be forced to deal with.
One– As you may or may not know, there are in five stages of grief. According to CRUSE Bereavement Support, “The five stages – denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance – are often talked about as if they happen in order, moving from one stage to the other. You might hear people say things like ‘Oh I’ve moved on from denial and now I think I’m entering the angry stage’. But this isn’t often the case.
In fact, Kübler-Ross, in her writing, makes it clear that the stages are non-linear. People can experience these aspects of grief at different times in a differet order. You might not experience all of the stages. Also, you might find feelings are quite different with different bereavements.”
Two– Grief is a never-ending process. It forces you to learn how to live again, someway, somehow -without the very person or thing that you lost. Far too often after we experience a great loss whether it be the loss of a loved one, pet, job, opportunity, etc. we mourn what could have been, should have been, but unfortunately will never be again… This layer of grief is absolutely unfathomable. So unfathomable that the mind can’t even begin to comprehend “it.”
Three- There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Grieving is unique to us all, looks different to us all, and does not come in a one-size-fits all. Grief is something we all must go and grow through; whatever that may look or feel like. In WAKANDA FOREVER, Nakia (Lupita Nyong’o) states how she allowed herself to be broken in order to cope with losing the love of her life, T’Challa.
Four- God cares about your grief. GIVE.IT.OVER.TO HIM. ALL. OF. IT.” The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. he protects all his bones, not one of them will be broken. Evil will slay the wicked; the foes of the righteous will be condemned. The LORD redeems his servants; no one will be condemned who takes refuge in him.” – Psalm 34:18 NIV
Five– Grief is complicated. Some days you’re okay and other days you are not, and that’s okay! Grief is a lifelong battle that you will wrestle with in your mind, will, heart, and emotions. It sits with you, sits on you, and stays with you. This ripple effect hits you like a MIGHTY rushing wind.
This tsunami of emotion can express itself as depression, despair, loss of interest, desperation, anxiety, sadness, shock, weight loss, having little to no appetite, reduced energy, wanting to roll over and die (playing dead), guilt, shame, and the list goes on….
When someone experiences grief, a “parallel universe” is formed in the heart, mind and spirit. It’s almost as if the loss hasn’t occurred at all-even though it most certainly has. In this alternate reality all is well and nothing has been lost.
Beloved, has grief pushed you into the dimensions of a parallel universe?