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The Best Advice I Can Give You For "Coming Out" To Your Family

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September 04, 20174028Shares

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Don’t tell mom the babysitter’s dead, 1991 teen comedy, may have cemented telling your mom the baby-sitter is dead on the coming out walk of fame. I am not sure of too many other things to top coming out about, but, coming out about your new life could be very hard, to say the least. To mustard up the courage alone could make a person ill, so much so that when you find the words, instead of the words pouring out you find only the pizza you ate 3 hours ago and some Pepsi. Very often we grow up.

Being told what to do and what to be and as we find ourselves, to have to tell our family can be as painful as ripping off a band-aid. But it must be done, for you never know who might be thinking the same way or have questions and you may not have all the answers but you can give them your story.

So the best advice I can give you for coming out to your family about your conversion to the Christian faith that I can give you is, first of all, do not expect them to completely understand at first. In the 2005 Romantic Comedy Guess Who starring Ashton Kutcher and Zoe Saldana,

Ashton and Zoe playing love interest to one other in an interracial relationship, has Simon (Ashton’s character) going to meet Theresa’s (Zoe’s character) parents for the first time and she did not tell them that he was white.  They were a little taken a back and not immediately accepting. When I first told my grandparents I was going to church and was a Christian they brushed it off and said I did not need to do all that. And they are processing Christians!!

So, I can only imagine the difficulty if you were raised strict Islam, Hindu, Jewish or anything else in letting the cross out the bag. Second word of advice, do not look for them to co-sign your decision. Zoe’s character later in the movie says to the late great Bernie Mac, playing the role of her father that she was hoping for him to tell her it was okay. You have to believe in your experience and accept that fact that they may not be down for the cause or willing to accept it.

They may even try to downplay it and talk you out of it. You must revert back to what you know. Hebrews 1:3 is a great verse to stand on especially when you may not know a lot more.

Hebrews 1:3 says, “The Son is the radiance of god’s glory and the exact representation of his being, sustaining all things by his powerful word.

Third best word of advice I have for you when coming out to your family is do not pretend to understand more than you do or create a false life. Meaning understand things will still go bad and you are still imperfect but if that is what you present they will find the loopholes in your prudence and have you doubting. Simon in the movie, in an attempt to impress Theresa’s father lies about playing sports and says he use to drive for NASCAR. Little did he know, Percy, (Bernie Mac’s character) knew NASCAR very well and knew he was lying and used that against him. You are still you, just the redeemed up version of you.

Lastly, prepare for the reality that they may never accept it, or forgive you. Let the fact that you are forgiven to help you deal with that, and pray that your life will bear fruit in such a way that it may lead them to not only accepting you but accepting Christ.  Come out of the closet, your life is a beacon of light that is needed in your family and in this world.

Dion Ringgold

Dion Ringgold

Philadelphia native, yes, West Philadelphia, born and raised, to Overbrook High, to La Salle University. Dion, is homegrown and a product of the rich culture that is Philly. Leadership, management and training professional, Dion grew up aspiring to be a cartoonist. Creating original characters and writing stories for them. Art and literature has always been his passion. Dion would write stories and create good characters that would be positive people. Now the founder and Editor in Chief of InClub millennial life and style magazine, Dion is still doing just that. Highlighting character over celebrity, Dion, is still displaying positive people, and sill doing art, but through the art form of style. Dion is also a conference Speaker, visionary, personal stylist and movie enthusiast. Dion considers Blake Mycoskie as his greatest inspiration in business and is a devote Christian.